Happiness Comes From...♡

Sunday, August 8th. 
For some reason every time I write this topic comes up somewhere. This is because all the adventures, fun, food, and friends that I hangout with revolve around HAPPINESS. I know enough to give you advice on how to be happy, but not enough to direct you every step of the way. I'm no psychologist or therapist, but I just learn the idea my reading and living it. 

Make it top priority.
If someone came and asked me what I want most in life, my answer would be to be happy as much as I can. It's an idea for you to grab if you want. I never studied it on purpose but reading The Pursuit of Happiness and being in a psychology class once, makes me understand how to be happy a little more. The book of course goes in depth about it. 
Remember that whenever you feel like you can't get back up, try your best to find the positive light because happiness is your priority.

Where does it come from?
EVERYWHERE and NOWHERE. Yeah...sounds a little crazy. I can't say that it all comes from within because a lot of it has to do with your surroundings. MOST of this idea DOES come from within because it is in your control. When you lose that control to feel happy, just change a couple of things in life and you will gain that control again. People call those "obstacles" and you must overcome them to feel that you are in control again. This obstacle for me most of the time is stress and once I finish something, change something, or relieve the stress is when I can gain full control of happiness again. Even though you know you don't have control or that you have obstacles to go over, don't ever say to yourself that you aren't in control. This is what makes people give up, and it's harder to get back up from giving up than to go over an obstacle. 

Sadly, it's not absolute.
Sometimes I hate this, I really do, but it's how life is. Everything will end and nothing will be "forever". I know this sounds sad and it's not something you would tell a person that is constantly in a depressed state, but I'm telling you because it's the truth. I thought that things lasted forever or that this happiness and euphoria I'm feeling can be permanent, but it can't. Happiness will change based on control and how many good and bad things that come your way. Maybe you even see it in my posts. One post I'll be stressed and the next I'll be happy. It just happens to be that way, but don't think that you're the only one having this feeling. Feeling like your are the only one makes you think that other people have absolute happiness while you don't and that's not the case. 

What makes people the most happy?
This can determine from person to person, but I really recommend reading books on happiness to get some ideas. You may not know what makes you happy the longest. Let me tell you that buying things and having possessions are the most temporary type of happiness. Experiences is what makes people the most happy the longest. Going places and doing things you love let's you remember that particular event forever. I'm so glad I found this out! The explanation is that you will go back to think of that particular event and that creates the same euphoria of you experiencing that event. This is the same with doing activities you love, hanging out with the ones you cherish, trying new food, and seeing wonders of the world. 
There's many other small things that make people happy like changes in life and the people around them. 


​Go out there and see what is new to try, what you will enjoy doing, what you can change for the better, and you will soon find yourself to be more and more happy. You will soon find it easier to go over those obstacles when they come your way, and trust me it will feel a lot better and your happiness level will increase. 
Remember that I'm no doctor, but just a friend to give advice because this topic is something that I constantly struggle with, I know it's better when things are talked about than held in. Thank you! ♡